Face Your Fears – “Fear is inevitable, I have to accept that, but I cannot allow it to paralyze me.” ~Isabel Allende
How to Tackle the Top 6 Fears That Keep Us Stuck
When you think of a fearless person, you might imagine a real-life James Bond who performs death-defying stunts knowing he could die at any second.
But for most of us living “normal” lives, fear operates at a subconscious level and prevents us from being the best we can be.
For a long time, I struggled with these fears. I could not get myself to speak in front of people without experiencing extreme nervousness. When it came to talking to girls I liked, I could list 100 reasons why I would get rejected.
As I got older, I learned that these fears affected me not because I wasn’t talented or likable, but because I was limiting myself with my thinking with the face your fears mentality.
By training our minds, we can control our fears instead of letting them control us. Below are some tips that have helped me fear less and live more (which I hope will help you too).
1. Be more vulnerable. (Tackle the fear of rejection and intimacy.)
None of us want to have our hearts broken, but when we’ve experienced this before, we may be afraid of entering new relationships for fear of getting hurt.
2. Work hard and expect nothing. (Tackle the fear of failure.)
As harsh as it sounds, expectations set us up for failure. A lot of the things we plan and expect to happen never happen. The potential for failure hurts our egos and keeps us from trying new things.
3. Know that you are capable of achievement. (Tackle the fear of success.)
It’s not always fear of failure that stops us. Sometimes it’s the fear of success. As ridiculous as it may sound, sometimes even if we’ve worked hard at something, we are afraid of putting ourselves out there because we feel we don’t deserve it.
4. Let go. (Tackle the fear of losing control.)
We like to be in control of everything in our lives. It’s easy to think of someone like Sherlock Holmes who plans everything out in detail; and even when things don’t seem to be going according to plan, he really had that planned all along too.
5. Focus on the present. (Tackle the fear of the past repeating itself.)
Sometimes, we let our past experiences prevent us from succeeding. Because you failed so many times before, you start to expect failure this time too.
6. Realize you can handle whatever happens. (Tackle the fearing of worst case scenarios.)
Face your Fears. We humans like to picture the worst scenario that could arise out of a situation. In our minds, we may fear going bankrupt, or something bad happening to our loved ones.
I’m not saying we should be naïve and not expect bad things to happen at all. But, to live in fear of these scenarios is a waste of time and energy, because many times the things we fear never end up happening, and when they do happen, it’s not quite as bad as we imagined it would be.
Whatever fears you may have, get out and face them. In some cases, one of our biggest fears are not physical, they are more or less psychological, or known as our inner demons. Overcoming an addiction is a fear that we all have, be it chemical, gambling, food, sex, internet or work. A Mission For Michael, a Drug Alcohol Substance Abuse Treatment center in Orange County would like to become part of your healing process. If you feel you may have the slightest addition, please give us a call, even if its just for simple advice.